Dear John

So you find "negative to and fro very draining" do you?

Well, you know what? There's a VERY easy way to avoid it.

Either you can flop over like a little emo boy, and whinge about "bad vibes" - or else you can handle conflict like a man, accept responsibility when you've done something wrong, and take steps to ensure that you don't affect other people negatively in the first place.